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Guide to Finding the Best Delay Spray for Men

Our experts evaluated hundreds of brands in order to recommend the best premature ejaculation spray. Everything you need to know is in this guide!

Medically reviewed by: Dr. Nathan LeDeaux, MD
Last Updated: Aug 19, 2021

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Depending on how experts define it, premature ejaculation (PE) affects between one-fifth and one-third of men in the United States. And even if you don’t suffer from clinically defined premature ejaculation, lasting longer in bed can be pleasurable for everyone involved. Most men require about five minutes to reach orgasm during sex, while the average time needed for women during sexual activity is more than 15 minutes.

There are hundreds of delay sprays on the market. These products used to require a visit to some sketchy adult store or a wait at the doctor’s office, but now they are readily available online from reputable telehealth companies.

We closely examined the sprays sold by the most popular brands to identify the outstanding options for you. Four brands rose to the top in 2021, and we recommend that you go with one of them. In this guide, we’ll break down how they work and how much they cost so that you can choose the best one for you.

In our opinion, the best value in 2021 — and the best choice for most men — is VigRX Delay Spray.

More details on these companies and products as you continue reading, but here is a quick summary of our findings for those in a hurry.

Summary of our recommendations for best delay spray:

Our Top Choice

VigRX

Dollar for dollar, VigRX delivers much more delay spray than its competitors.

The key to VigRX’s success is fast-absorbing benzocaine. The vast majority of people can use benzocaine without any skin irritation, but the VigRX 67-day money-back guarantee protects you if you’re not satisfied.

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Why you should trust us

At Innerbody Research, we extensively test each health service we review, including these delay sprays. All told, our team has spent over 68 hours testing and researching these sprays and their alternatives to provide an accurate, unbiased analysis of how they compare, free of marketing jargon and gimmicks.

Over the past two decades, Innerbody Research has helped tens of millions of readers make more informed decisions to live healthier lifestyles. We evaluate the service based on adherence to quality, the latest medical evidence and health standards, and a simple question: would we buy the product or service ourselves if it weren’t part of our job, and would we recommend it to family and friends?

Additionally, like all health-related content on this website, this review was thoroughly vetted by one or more members of our Medical Review Board for accuracy.

How we evaluated delay sprays

Cost

Winner: VigRX

Cost evaluations can be a little tricky here. While one company might offer more spray per dollar than another, it might not be as effective or last as long. We compared overall price, price per ounce, effectiveness, and duration to give you the best picture of the product landscape.

Here’s a handy chart that breaks down the results from our testing:

  Price Spray Count Cost per Use Effectiveness Duration
VigRX $50 435 $0.34 8 35-55 minutes
Hims Delay Spray $29 50 $1.74 5 15-20 minutes
Promescent Delay Spray $23 35 $1.97 8 30-45 minutes
Roman Swipes 8-pack $27 N/A $3.38 7 20-30 minutes
Promescent Wipes 5-pack $20 N/A $4.00 6 30-45 minutes
K-Y Duration $20 36 $1.67 7 30-45 minutes

We used an average of three sprays per use to calculate cost per use in this chart. Effectiveness is on a scale of 1-10 (10 being most effective in our testing). This is not a reflection of numbing power. It reflects the balance between pleasure and desensitization.

As you can see, the cost per use is the lowest with VigRx, and their product also happens to offer the best efficacy and one of the most prolonged durations. They come out ahead in value.

Safety

Winner: Promescent

A big part of the safety of these products has to do with their communication. Users with allergies or intolerances to benzocaine or lidocaine need to know what they’re spraying on themselves, and all of these companies are direct about their active ingredients. Benzocaine allergies are more common than lidocaine allergies, so Promescent starts on the right foot. What adds to Promescent’s safety rating is the degree to which it absorbs into the skin while remaining effective. This dramatically reduces the risk of spreading the anesthetic to your partner, who may have an allergic reaction if they aren’t aware of the spray’s ingredients.

Effectiveness

Winner: Tie (VigRX and Promescent)

Effectiveness has to include more than just numbing power. As you can see in the chart above, we established a simple 1-10 scale for efficacy that combines a delay spray’s numbing power with its ability to allow you to enjoy yourself. After all, there wouldn’t be much point if you couldn’t feel anything.

We also consider a spray’s ability to absorb after minimal rubbing in, which is an important part of its efficacy and safety. For instance, we found the numbing action and duration of VigRX to be superior to Promescent. However, the lower absorbance of VigRX as compared to Promescent is why these delay sprays end up comparable in effectiveness.

Customer service and discretion

Winner: Hims

These companies do a fine job concerning discretion, so this category mostly came down to the customer service side. Here, Hims’ responsive, friendly, and knowledgeable phone operators gave them the edge, as did their excellent and intuitive website design. Most of all, though, the ability to talk to actual doctors about your PE issues made Hims the clear choice for customer service.

What is a delay spray?

They answer to many names: PE spray, premature ejaculation spray, PEJ spray, delay spray, etc. We prefer the term “delay spray” since definitions of PE vary, and the spray itself works for men with and without clinically diagnosed premature ejaculation.

No matter what you call them, delay sprays provide a way for men to last longer during sex. A study from 2016 showed that men who used Promescent — a lidocaine-based spray — achieved an average 64% increase in the duration of sexual activity. Some men report more intense orgasms while using delay spray as directed because the pleasure builds more gradually over a more extended period of activity.

Lidocaine vs. benzocaine

Delay sprays contain a local anesthetic that slightly numbs the hypersensitive nerves in your penis, allowing you to last longer while still experiencing intense enjoyment during sex. But products differ when it comes to the anesthetic they use: benzocaine or lidocaine. These belong to two different classes of local anesthetics: the esters and amides, respectively.

Note: benzocaine and lidocaine allergies can be class-specific, so if you’ve had an adverse reaction to any of the anesthetics listed below, consider reaching for a delay spray from a different class, and be sure to talk to your doctor.

Common amide anesthetics:

  • Lidocaine
  • Bupivacaine
  • Ropivacaine
  • Septocaine
  • Carbocaine
  • Prilocaine

Common ester anesthetics:

  • Benzocaine
  • Chloroprocaine
  • Proparacaine
  • Tetracaine
  • Procaine
  • Cocaine

Benzocaine is possibly the most common local anesthetic. It was first discovered in the late 1800s and then used medicinally starting in the early 1900s. Lidocaine is also a prevalent local anesthetic and the most common one used by dentists. You can find either anesthetic in many over-the-counter products, such as cold sore gels or ointments that provide relief from sunburn or poison ivy.

The vast majority of people have no problems with either lidocaine or benzocaine, which is why delay sprays are available without a prescription. In rare cases, people have allergies to one of them. Neither of these topical anesthetics is dangerous except in rare cases or when misused; an allergic reaction is not common, but irritation can occur. Studies indicate that 2.4% of the population experiences irritation from local anesthetics such as these.

People who are allergic to any anesthetic in the amide group should probably avoid lidocaine. The same is true of benzocaine if you’re allergic to any other anesthetic in the ester group. If you have a known allergy, you definitely shouldn’t use delay sprays that contain the allergen. And you should also discuss the use of delay spray with your partner before sex, as the delay spray could trigger an allergic reaction in them.

At some point before your first time spraying it on your penis, we always recommend that you test a tiny amount of any delay spray on a small portion of your arm or leg first to ensure it doesn’t cause any local skin irritation.

What is the best delay spray?

Based on our testing and research, we feel that VigRX is the best value available right now. It offers a high degree of efficacy with a low cost per use. Our tester found that the spray bottle’s tubing doesn’t quite extend to the very bottom of the bottle, so the final sprays require a little bit of careful tilting to utilize the product in its entirety.

In terms of value, however, VigRX Delay Spray provides vastly more for your money. It’s an excellent deal in the landscape of high-quality delay sprays.

For those with benzocaine sensitivity

The benzocaine in VigRX (or Roman Swipes) won’t irritate most people, but it is a little more likely to be an issue; of the 2.4% of people who react poorly to local anesthetics, 45% of them react to benzocaine, while 32% react to lidocaine. If benzocaine has irritated you in the past, then Promescent is your best choice.

Company Snapshots: VigRX

VigRX may be familiar to you with their popular male sexual performance supplements. More recently, the company broadened their product line to include a delay spray and wipes, putting them in direct competition with Promescent, Roman, and Hims. There are major differences between VigRX’s product and those others.

Value

Because VigRX’s delay spray sells for $50 per bottle at the lowest end — more than twice the cost of Promescent’s least expensive offering — you might think it’s not a very good value. But if you compare the volume of the product, you’ll see why it costs more. VigRX includes 50 mL of its delay spray in every bottle, while Promescent’s $22 bottle contains only 2.6 mL. And the concentration of numbing agents is the same; both products require the same approximate number of sprays to be effective.

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Our testers found that the 20-spray bottle of Promescent put out closer to 35 sprays. Still, depending on how often you enjoy sex and how many sprays you need each time, that bottle of Promescent might not last you a month, making it (and Hims’ product, for that matter) significantly more expensive than VigRX.

Our testers confirm that one bottle of VigRX Delay Spray contains over 400 sprays, which means it can last well beyond a month. Based on testing and research, we believe many men will require only one or two sprays per use, translating to over 200 sexual encounters using one VigRX bottle.

Insider Tip: VigRX has a thicker consistency than some of its competitors, so you likely won’t be able to rub it in entirely or have it completely absorb and dry on its own. Rub in a small amount, and wipe the rest away for best results.

We recommend that you start with the smallest possible number of sprays targeted at your most sensitive area (the area just under the head of the penis). That will help you establish your lowest effective dose.

Refund policy

So, what if it doesn’t work? VigRX and Promescent protect you from disappointment with a generous money-back guarantee. In the case of VigRX, you can get a full refund within 67 days if you’re unsatisfied with the delay spray. The belief is that if their bottle lasts you two months and you’re not satisfied, you’ll still have a week to request a refund.

Safety

Like Roman Swipes and a great many over-the-counter topicals, VigRX relies on benzocaine; it’s the numbing agent that helps you delay orgasm during sex. However, benzocaine also causes contact dermatitis – localized allergic reaction at the contact point – slightly more often than lidocaine.

If you’ve experienced an adverse reaction to one anesthetic, you may not experience any reaction to the other; benzocaine belongs to the ester group of local anesthetics, whereas lidocaine belongs to the amide group.

However, in reality, 97% of men and their sexual partners will not experience issues with either of these topical anesthetics.

In addition to benzocaine, VigRX ingredients include:

  • Propylene glycol
  • Water
  • Ethyl aminobenzoate
  • Glycyrrhiza glabra (licorice) root extract
  • Cinnamomum zeylanicum extract
  • Panax ginseng root extract
  • Rubus idaeus (raspberry) fruit extract
  • Ginkgo biloba leaf extract
  • Paeonia albiflora root extract
  • Dioscurea villosa (wild yam) root extract
  • Cimifuga racemosa root extract
  • Lepidium meyenii
  • Turnera aphrodisiaca extract
  • Potassium sorbate
  • Cherry flavor
  • Calcium saccharin
  • Sodium hydroxide
  • Citric acid

VigRX offers a delay wipe, as well, but for some reason, they’ve swapped out benzocaine or lidocaine in favor of the natural ingredients zanthoxylum oil and peony extract. Unfortunately, the majority of the evidence supporting either ingredient is anecdotal. The only major study involving zanthoxylum looked at its synergistic effect with an opioid administered in mice, and its influence on the results is hard to quantify. Thus, we cannot recommend VigRX delay wipes at this time.

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Company Snapshots: Promescent

Promescent spray

Promescent was at the heart of the delay spray revolution. Their founder, Dr. Roland Gilbert, developed the first successful oil-aqueous lidocaine that could quickly absorb into the skin instead of sitting on top of it. This absorption allowed Promescent Delay Spray to work faster, more effectively, and (when used as directed) with little to no transfer of the numbing effect from the man to his sexual partner.

Clinical studies of Promescent spray confirm its effectiveness. Over 90% of men report that using Promescent’s Delay Spray doesn’t disrupt their sexual enjoyment.

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Promescent Delay Spray

Promescent’s Delay Spray is quick to absorb and very effective when used as directed.

This delay spray was very innovative when it was introduced, paving the way for other modern delay sprays. It remains a product that we highly recommend, but buy larger quantities to get the most value.

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The first bottle of Promescent spray may cost you a little more than competitors like Hims — and much more than VigRX. But if the product works well for you, then Promescent’s bundling opportunities make it more economical than Hims for a high-quality, lidocaine-based delay spray supply.

Promescent’s ingredients are:

  • Lidocaine
  • Acrylates/C10-30 Alkyl Acrylate Crosspolymer
  • Ceteareth-20, Cetearyl Alcohol
  • Citric Acid
  • Dimethicone
  • Farnesol, Fragrance
  • Glycerin
  • Hydrogenated Polyisobutene
  • Macadamia Ternifolia Seed Oil
  • Panthenol, Phenoxyethanol
  • Purified Water (Aqua)
  • SD Alcohol 40-B
  • Sodium Hydroxide
  • Soy Lecithin
  • Stearoxytrimethylsilane
  • Stearyl Alcohol
  • Thymol
  • Tocopheryl Acetate (Vitamin E)

Promescent also recently ventured into the wipe space, offering a simple, highly portable option for men on the go. However, the company plainly states that these wipes — which contain benzocaine rather than original Promescent’s lidocaine — are somewhat less effective. We applaud Promescent for this honesty, though we certainly still encourage men to try either product, as the benzocaine wipes will still work well enough for many men.

As for the delay spray, Promescent comes in single bottles of different sizes ranging from $23 for a 20-spray bottle to $60 for a 60-spray bottle. So the price-per-spray drops to $1 with the larger bottle, compared to $1.15 per spray with the smallest.

Additionally, you can buy packages containing multiple bottles of varying sizes. Whether you want handy travel-size bottles that fit discreetly in pockets, larger bottles for your bedside drawer, or a combination of these, the company has you covered nicely.

Insider Tip: You’ll feel Promescent working quickly, but you’ll still want to rub it in for maximum effectiveness. Its consistency is such that with a moderate amount of rubbing, most of the solution will absorb, and the rest should be nearly dry in 10-15 minute. Be sure to wipe any excess away for safety.

Promescent offers a 60-day guarantee that is rather customer-friendly. For more information, visit our full 2021 Promescent review.

Company Snapshots: Hims

Hims PEJ spray

Hims offers customers a safe, non-prescription delay spray for men who want to last longer during sex. Hims Delay Spray is the most expensive option per mL among options in its class, and we found it to be the least effective in testing. It failed to produce the same numbing effects as Promescent or VigRX, even with an excessive application of sprays. That said, if you find that Promescent and VigRX are too desensitizing for your taste, it might be your best option.

Just because Hims seems to cause a lighter numbing sensation, that doesn’t mean you should use more than 10 sprays. It still contains the same amount of active lidocaine as other products, and more than 10 sprays may be hazardous.

Hims Delay Spray is made from:

  • Lidocaine
  • Acrylates/C10-30 Alkyl Acrylate Crosspolymer
  • SD Alcohol 40-B, Ceteareth 20
  • Cetearyl Alcohol
  • Citric Acid
  • Dimethicone
  • Farnesol
  • Fragrance
  • Glycerin
  • Hydrogenated Polyisobutene
  • Macadamia Ternifolia Seed Oil
  • Panthenol
  • Phenoxyethanol
  • Purified Water (Aqua)
  • Sodium Hydroxide
  • Soy Lecithin
  • Stearoxytrimethylsilane
  • Stearyl Alcohol
  • Thymol
  • Tocopheryl Acetate (Vitamin E)

Hims might also be a good choice if your issues in the bedroom extend to erectile dysfunction and you want to speak to a medical professional about your PE or ED. That’s because Hims offers free doctor consultations with a dedicated team of physicians who can prescribe you medications for either affliction.

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On the PE side, Hims offers a pair of prescription selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs):

  • Sertraline (the active ingredient in Zoloft)
  • Paroxetine (the active ingredient in Paxil).

Hims has even more options for ED, including:

  • Brand name and generic Viagra (sildenafil)
  • Brand name and generic Cialis (tadalafil)
  • Brand name Stendra (avanafil)

For more information about Hims sexual health offerings, check out our Hims ED review.

Hims also offers broader telehealth services of interest to many men, from primary care to talk therapy. For more information about Hims as a company, you can visit our full Hims review.

Company Snapshots: Roman

For a time, Roman had the market cornered on a different kind of PE desensitization: the wipe. Their product, Roman Swipes, is essentially moist towelettes, but the moisture comes from benzocaine.

On the one hand, a wipe may be superior to a spray because there’s less risk of wasting the fluid by missing the target. There’s also a lot less residue to run down your hands or onto the bed or floor, and your application area will dry faster as a result. From a portability standpoint, slipping a wipe into your pocket or wallet is a lot easier than carrying around a bottle of spray if you’re going out.

On the other hand, quite literally, is a lot of benzocaine. A wipe has a much greater potential to spread its anesthetic than a more concentrated spray would be. You could use a glove when you apply the wipe, but that’s somewhat unrealistic for most foreplay scenarios. The spray simply provides a more controlled application and, in our opinion, a better experience.

Roman’s wipes are a bit more expensive per use than Promescent or Hims, let alone VigRX (the most affordable choice). However, some men prefer the wipe rather than a spray. If this describes you, then we recommend the Roman Swipes as a product of high quality.

Roman Swipes contain:

  • Benzocaine
  • Ethyl alcohol
  • Propylene glycol
  • Purified water

How a delay spray works

As their name suggests, delay sprays delay a man’s orgasm, allowing sexual activity to continue longer. The sprays achieve their intended effect by using lidocaine or benzocaine to slightly and temporarily numb the nerves in a man’s penis. You follow the instructions to spray a small amount of the product onto your penis and then wait a certain amount of time before sexual activity.

But how do benzocaine and lidocaine cause that numbing sensation? Normally, your nerve cells send sensation signals by exchanging sodium and potassium ions with their environment, resulting in a negative charge that flows through your body like a current until it reaches your brain.

Both benzocaine and lidocaine destabilize the sodium part of the puzzle, which temporarily prevents nerve cells from using negative sodium ions to create any signals. Without those signals, you lose feeling. As the lidocaine dissolves and breaks down in the body, the feeling returns.

Traditional benzocaine and lidocaine were crystalline. They could only exist in a spray as a solution that took a long time to absorb and often left either anesthetic on the surface of your skin in considerable quantity. Dr. Ronald Gilbert created the first oil-aqueous form of lidocaine, which allowed the numbing agent to absorb into the skin after a few minutes. He marketed this spray as Promescent.

How do you use delay spray?

Using a delay spray is a straightforward process, but it’s essential to follow the instructions to use the product safely and with the desired effects.

  1. Shake the bottle gently before using. Make sure any caps or locking mechanisms are in place, so there’s no accidental discharge.

  2. Spray specifically sensitive areas. In most cases, focus on the frenulum and the underside of the glans (or head). The frenulum of the penis is the small, v-shaped flap of sensitive skin on the underside of the penis, just below the head. Apply 1-3 sprays. You can spray more before your subsequent encounter if the number you tried at first was ineffective. Up to 10 sprays is a safe dosage. However, less is always better if it’s effective for you. You save product and money over time.

  3. Rub in the product gently. You don’t want to be too vigorous here, especially if you apply the product to an erect penis, as you might unintentionally climax. Just rub enough to help the solution absorb.

  4. Wait up to 15 minutes until the product is completely dry on your penis. Waiting as instructed allows the delay spray to be effective for you and prevents transferring its effect to your partner, which is not what anyone wants.

  5. Wipe away any excess. Otherwise, a small amount of excess product may cross over to your partner and induce a numbing sensation for them.

After that, you’re free to enjoy intercourse as usual, including oral sex. Condoms and lubricants are entirely compatible with delay sprays, though some brands highly recommend latex condoms for maximum compatibility.

If this is your first time using a delay spray, keep in mind that most men find three sprays or fewer ideal for them, producing the desired effects without any undesired ones (such as too much numbness).

Delay spray pros & cons

Studies and ample evidence speak to the efficacy of delay sprays for men who want to last longer during sex, but delay spray isn’t for everyone. Here are the pros and cons.

Pros

  • Proven effective for most men, helping most to last around 64% longer during sex
  • Lidocaine and benzocaine are common local anesthetics and generally quite safe
  • Should not interfere with either partner’s pleasure when used properly
  • Non-prescription and affordable
  • Sprays let you focus strictly on sensitive areas
  • Required wait time provides an opportunity for partner-focused foreplay

Cons

  • You have to wait up to 15 minutes for the spray to absorb before sex
  • May take several tries to find your perfect number of sprays
  • About 2.4% of people experience an allergic reaction to one of the local anesthetics
  • To be safe, don’t use delay sprays during pregnancy
  • Not recommended for use when a couple is trying to conceive — there is some evidence that delay spray can impair sperm.

Common mistakes to avoid

When using a delay spray, there are certain things you should avoid. For some of them, it’s clear from the outset how to avoid the mistake. For others, trial and error is the way to go.

Mistake #1: Not waiting long enough after spraying.

You must follow the instructions for using the delay spray. You should wait up to 15 minutes or until the product has absorbed and your penis is dry. This is important for two reasons:

  1. The spray won’t be effective unless you wait for it to absorb into the skin.

  2. If you don’t wait, the spray may affect your partner as well, causing unintended numbness. That is not the goal here.

Mistake #2: Focusing the spray in the wrong places or not focusing on particular areas at all.

One of the great benefits of delay spray, as opposed to some other treatment methods of the past, is the ability to focus the effect only where it matters most. For men hoping to last longer during sex, the two areas where you should apply the spray are:

  • The glans (head) of the penis, specifically the underside of it
  • The frenulum (the small flap of skin extending from the underside of the glans to the beginning of the shaft)

Many men find a single spray directly to the frenulum and underside area of the glans is enough to do the trick perfectly.

Mistake #3: Using too much spray.

Lots of men start by using too much of the delay spray. There are big reasons why this is a significant mistake:

  • You are likely wasting product and money.
  • You risk going too numb to enjoy sex and could potentially lose your erection because of it.
  • Too much lidocaine or benzocaine can be absorbed into the bloodstream and cause adverse reactions, but too little anesthetic is likely present in these bottles to pose a severe threat.

For many men, there is also such a thing as too little spray. Lots of men only need one spray or two at most, but some require three or more. (Note: Companies do not recommend more than 10 sprays.)

Frequently asked questions about delay spray

Does delay spray work?

Yes, delay spray definitely works to help men last longer during sex. Studies show that it helps men last on average 64% longer during sex. It effectively desensitizes the penis without making it too numb to enjoy intercourse.

How long does delay spray last?

You can expect the effect of delay sprays to last for 30-60 minutes from the time you apply them. One excellent aspect of this is that you can use the spray whenever you know that you’re going to have sex at some point in the next hour. This gives you time to dry and in no way interferes with your foreplay or sexual experience.

Does delay spray have any side effects?

If you use it as directed, you shouldn’t encounter any side effects from delay sprays. This safety profile is why they are available over-the-counter, as opposed to requiring a prescription. It’s essential not to use more than a company’s recommended maximum.

There are cases in which people are allergic to either benzocaine or lidocaine, though this is uncommon. If you or your partner are known to be allergic to lidocaine, benzocaine, or any topical anesthetic, don’t use any delay spray that contains the active ingredient. The most common possible side effects of delay spray are irritation, rash, or mild burning in the places you apply it; any of these could also be mild reactions to the other ingredients in the spray.

Does delay spray affect my partner?

Delay sprays will not affect your partner in any way as long as you follow the instructions and wait the recommended amount of time before beginning intercourse. Once it absorbs into the skin, the lidocaine or benzocaine in these products cannot transfer to any other person or surface.

In the past, delay spray products were formulated in less sophisticated ways than the best companies use today. If you tried delay sprays years ago and found that your partner’s sexual enjoyment was affected, this is very likely the reason.

One of our top providers — Promescent — actually was the first to create a product in which lidocaine (the active numbing agent) dissolves entirely into a liquid instead of being contained in tiny crystals. This innovation dramatically changed the game for delay sprays, making them absorb faster into the skin and work more effectively while preventing unwanted effects in the partner.

To make sure you don’t affect your partner, follow the instructions of the delay spray. Most require you to wipe away any excess spray from your penis, particularly if there’s a chance of oral sex. If yours instructs you to do this, then you should do it.

If you rub the product in with your fingers (or use a wipe), wash your hands to avoid mishaps transferring the product to your partner or other areas of your body.

How many sprays should I apply?

You should apply as few as are needed to produce the intended effect, and never more than 10 sprays. The number varies from person to person, but many men find that something in the range of 1-3 sprays is ideal. Start with one or two to see what your response is. Then, you can use more if needed.

Do delay sprays have an odor?

Delay sprays generally have a mild scent, and companies usually add fragrance to their products to enhance that scent for the better. Hims and Promescent have delay sprays with a subtle minty scent that still has medicinal hints to it. The VigRX spray has a more aggressive cherry candy scent, which may make it more or less suitable for use during oral sex, depending on preferences.

Should I apply delay spray to a flaccid or erect penis?

This is mainly a matter of personal preference. Some men find that applying the spray to the most sensitive areas of the penis is easier when it is erect. Either way, since the spray only numbs you enough to enjoy sex longer, you shouldn’t worry about being able to achieve an erection after that 15-minute wait. You’ll still be sensitive enough for normal arousal.

Can I wear a condom with delay spray?

You generally can, although you must follow the instructions of your particular delay spray. Many delay sprays specify that using a condom is perfectly safe as long as it’s a latex condom. Regardless of the spray, you shouldn’t apply the condom until the spray has thoroughly dried.

Alternative to delay sprays

Whether you suffer from an allergy to topical anesthetics or you don’t feel that the waiting period for a delay spray to take effect will suit your sex life, there are plenty of interesting alternatives to delay spray. Many are adequate for some men, while others might fall short.

Wipes

As mentioned above, delay wipes work in much the same manner as sprays, but their anesthetic comes presoaked into a moist towelette. These are highly portable and reliable products, especially the option from Roman. However, they may be too similar for men seeking an alternative to sprays, especially considering they contain the same active ingredients.

Natural topical applications

The VigRX wipes would fall into this category. They use peony extract and zanthoxylum oil as numbing agents. The big problem here is a lack of research. There is far less evidence for efficacy or safety when using ingredients like these. If you fear you might have an allergy to benzocaine or lidocaine, there is less of a guarantee that one of these natural products would be any safer.

Kegels

Once thought of as exercises exclusive to women, kegels can provide men with significant sexual and urological support. Kegels are strengthening exercises done to improve the strength of pelvic floor muscles. If you’ve ever had to stop urinating mid-stream, you know what it feels like to engage these muscles.

Kegel sets containing regular, long-held contractions of the pelvic floor muscles — alternating with fast-contracting sets — shows promise in some studies to increase sexual performance. There is also evidence that such exercises can help with urinary incontinence or leakage.

Ultimately, we support kegel exercises, but since they require time and effort, we think you would do best to combine them with a delay spray if you don’t have any allergies to worry about.

Numbing condoms and lubricant

There are condoms and lubricants on the market that contain numbing agents similar to those found in delay sprays. These may seem extremely convenient at first, especially if you don’t feel like waiting very long to engage in intercourse. But these products often contain higher concentrations of their anesthetics in the hopes that they’ll start working faster. What’s more, both products are likely to spread some of that numbing effect to your partner, significantly reducing their pleasure.

There are condoms out there designed to reduce sensation simply by being thicker than usual. These are fine as far as we’re concerned, but for monogamous relationships in which you and your partner have decided not to use condoms, they would likely be a hindrance.

Prostate massage

While a taboo subject for some, prostate massage — sometimes called prostate milking — has the potential to reduce premature ejaculation problems, particularly when those problems are associated with an enlarged prostate. That’s because the massaging action itself and the specific type of orgasm that prostate massage causes can reduce the size of an enlarged prostate.

That makes prostate massage an advisable course of action for men suffering from premature ejaculation or benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH). And among the many treatments for either affliction, few are likely to be as pleasurable.

That said, there are precautions you and your partner should take, whether you perform the massage alone or with their help. You’ll want to ensure that your bowels are clear and as clean as you can safely get them and that you use an effective lubricant. The tissue of the anus is both sensitive and fragile, so go slowly and be gentle.