Sex toys tend to lack particularly dignified names, and the dildo is no different. But as a tool for pleasure, few implements are as simple or effective. And according to industry research, around 75% of Americans own a dildo or vibrator, with the largest concentration of owners in midwest and coastal states.
So, whether you’re on the outside looking in and wondering where to begin in your search for your first dildo, or you’re merely looking to add another piece to an ever-growing collection, we’ve put together this guide to give you all the confidence you need to make your decision.
In our guide, we discuss traditional, realistic dildoes, as well as models with unusual shapes or materials. And we’ve included vibrators among our picks to give you a greater diversity of options.
If you’re pressed for time, here’s a quick look at our top picks by category:
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Technically, any phallic object designed for sexual pleasure could be considered a dildo. The most typical images that come to mind are “realistic” dildoes that look like an idealized version of the male anatomy. But everything from modern computerized molding and 3D printing to increased skill in glass-blowing has allowed the humble dildo to evolve into various shapes and sizes.
Whether the definition extends to anything relatively phallic used for sexual pleasure — regardless of its intended purpose — is a matter of perspective. But we’ve elected to limit our selection to pieces built with pleasure as their intent, even if that means neglecting things like hair brushes and zucchini.
We firmly believe that vibrators exist under what you could call the dildo umbrella, and we’ve incorporated many into our rankings here. Rest assured that we’ve also included several analog options that are sure to please dildo purists or those looking to minimize their carbon footprint to the extreme.
Pleasure is deeply personal, both because of our psychological response to various stimuli and also because each of us has unique anatomy that will derive pleasure from different shapes, sizes, angles, and movements. While that makes it difficult to declare one dildo superior to another, we can still identify fundamental criteria to guide you toward a product that fits your needs and desires. Here are our top criteria for evaluating a dildo and the company that sells it:
The final decisions will boil down to your preference, but we’re here to guide you; keeping these benchmarks in mind might help tip the scales toward one company or another.
Pleasure for an experienced sex toy user might come with a different set of requirements than for a newbie. If you’re a seasoned user, you can look for what you know works, whether that’s clitoral stimulation, motion without vibration, or something decidedly realistic. If you’ve never used a dildo before, you might gain some insights from past pleasurable intercourse or self-stimulation. These experiences could tell you to look for something specific, like extra length or girth.
Of course, if you don’t have particularly informative experiences in this regard, either, there are still a few things to look for that might make your experience more enjoyable.
Vibration and movement are pleasurable options but not universally so.
Women and men have exclusive anatomical features that are in reasonably similar orientation to their respective vaginal and anal openings: the G-spot1 and the prostate. So similar is the potential for pleasure between them that areas ideal for prostate stimulation are sometimes referred to as P-spots.2 Dildoes with an upward curvature have an easier time reaching both the G-spot and P-spot and may be a smart thing to look for if you’re otherwise unsure what might feel good to you.
Deeply connected to pleasure is size, but size is also a practical matter for users at every experience level. It’s not a great idea for newcomers to get an especially large dildo in the hopes that they’ll grow into it. The smarter move is to start with a smaller dildo and purchase progressively longer or thicker models as you come to enjoy them.
A study out of Oxford from 2017 indicates that the best-selling dildoes average about 6.5 inches long and just over 1.5 inches thick.3 Interestingly, if you account for the fact that a user needs to have some kind of grip on their dildo, that puts the likely inserted length at an almost perfect match for the average male penis size.4
Pay close attention to the term “insertable length” when you see it. Not all companies advertise the total and insertable length, but it’s an important distinction, especially when a dildo features a base or a dedicated grip. That would add to its total length but not the length of the part that actually goes inside you.
In rare cases — especially when there is no dedicated handle, as with the Njoy Pure Wand — the total and insertable lengths are the same.
Here’s a look at some of our favorite models’ lengths for comparison:
|Insertable length (in.)||Total length (in.)|
|LELO Ina Wave||4.3||7.9|
|Fun Factory Amor||4.72||5.75|
|King Cock Elite 6||6||7|
|Rippler Mini Shimmer||5.5||6|
|Njoy Pure Wand||8||8|
There are outstanding dildoes you can get for less than $50 and incredible models you can find for several hundred. The relationship between cost and quality isn’t direct, but you will often find added features at higher price points. Those might include smartphone or remote control for vibration and motion functions.
Your budget will ultimately determine your cost, but we recommend new users start with something simple before graduating to more complex models. The last thing you want is to intimidate yourself or your partner away from what could ultimately be a pleasurable experience — and spend good money doing so.
It’s imperative that you keep all of your sex toys clean. There are special sprays, solutions, and wipes for just that purpose, and they make maintenance easier for everyone. Still, certain aspects of a given dildo can make it more or less challenging to maintain. Its shape may create small crevices or areas that could harbor bacteria and might be harder to reach with a wipe or a cloth. Any dildo that requires you to purchase additional tools just to clean it will likely lose points in our book.
If you’re interested in a model that either requires batteries or has a built-in battery, you’ll want to find out whether it’s water-resistant and to what extent. A water-resistant dildo will be a lot easier to clean, especially if it can handle a steady stream of hot water.
Battery power is also a big part of maintenance if you get a model with motion or vibration. A model that uses replaceable batteries might die on you unexpectedly, but you can quickly swap those out and get back to fun. A rechargeable model will need time to regain some juice before you can use it again, unless it’s designed to run while charging. Anticipating your use habits is important here, but we tend to recommend replaceable battery models to those who are unsure.
Regardless of how open you are with your lifestyle, there’s little doubt that you appreciate a company that respects your privacy more than one that doesn’t. For example, getting a dildo shipped to your house with its picture on the box might not be ideal. Nor would having customized dildo banner ads suddenly overrun your computer. So, we look at each company’s privacy and shipping policies to see which offers the best privacy and discretion, with unmarked shipping boxes and customizable marketing and tracking options whenever possible.
For a quick comparison of cost, materials, and features, we’ve put together this handy chart:
Insider Tip: Silicone is currently the material of choice for most dildo manufacturers, and water-based lubricant is the only sure-fire lube that’s safe to use with silicone. Oils can coat silicone and be extremely difficult to clean, and silicone lubricant can degrade silicone toys. Stick with water-based for the best long-term experience, even if you have to reapply it more often within a session.
Best overall, best vibrator, and best for women
LELO boasts one of the few lineups with vibration and movement in its toys. Its Wave series simulates the motion of a finger gently curling inside you. This is particularly nice for G- and P-spot stimulation.
A few Wave models are clearly geared toward women, especially our favorite: the Ida Wave. In addition to a vibrating, moving dildo, this model stimulates the clitoris, as well. The Loki Wave is the company’s male-oriented toy in its Wave lineup, and it features both an insertable Wave end and a vibrating massager for the perineum.
Here’s a look at how LELO’s Wave models compare:
Outside of the Wave lineup, LELO offers various forms of stimulation, from clitoral suction and bullet vibrators to penis rings and prostate massagers. Some of its products, including the Ida Wave, can be controlled by a smartphone via a local Bluetooth connection.
Shipping is free on all orders, and LELO products come with 1-year warranties and 10-year guarantees. The warranty covers any defects or issues that arise in the first year with a free replacement. The guarantee covers the same for a decade but gives you 50% off a new device instead of a replacement.
Best app control
Lovense has an impressive lineup of toys that includes various vibrators and even custom-sized condoms. The Nora is our top pick in its catalog thanks to its array of compelling features and reasonable price tag. It offers movement, vibration, wireless connectivity, reliable waterproofing, and more for just $99.
One complaint about the Nora’s build is that the external arm designed to stimulate the clitoris is the only one that vibrates. The other arm provides motion without vibration. If it could also offer vibration there, that would be a game changer.
Still, the Nora stands to provide more than adequate pleasure to the vast majority of its users. It’s also a great choice for couples, thanks to its enjoyable and intuitive smartphone app, Lovense Remote. This is the highest-rated app of any sex toy company we recommend, thanks to more reliable connectivity and nuanced controls. The app lets you control any Lovense toy’s parameters from a distance — either across the room via Bluetooth or anywhere on the globe with an internet connection.
We were close to also giving Lovense the “Best for couples” title, but its catalog didn’t feature quite enough models or packages tailored to couples. As an individual device, the Nora rivals the We-Vibe Rave in price and feature set, and its app is more reliable. But as couples invest their relationship with a company, they’ll find more items they can share from We-Vibe. If Lovense expands its catalog a bit and offers more bundles for pairs, it could usurp We-Vibe’s couples’ throne.
Here’s a quick look at our favorite products from Lovense:
A quick note about water resistance: The letters IP stand for ingress protection, X is the highest rating for dust and debris, and the number that follows corresponds to a specific degree of water resistance. IPX6 means the device can withstand “powerful jets of water” for up to three minutes, whereas IPX7 means the device can be submerged in up to three feet of water for up to 30 minutes, as per the International Electrotechnical Commission.
While it’s too bad that Lovense doesn’t offer free shipping no matter how much you spend, it only charges a flat $5 fee and ships discreetly.
Lovense offers an experience you won’t find elsewhere thanks to its partnerships with two dozen popular sites for cam performers. Everything happens through the company’s VibeMate smartphone app, which is distinct from the app you use to control your own toys.
There are two ways you can interact with cam models through the app:
With this method, the performer uses a certain Lovense toy, and once you tip an amount they set, you gain control over its functionality. That allows you to change vibration and motion intensity and patterns to give pleasure while you enjoy the show.
As long as the cam model is using the right toy, you can sync your toy with theirs (this is not a tip-dependent feature). The idea is that you’ll be able to feel whatever they’re feeling in real time.
Best customizable option
While humming vibration and subtle motions are enough for some people, others prefer a more aggressive thrusting action, which is rare among dildoes. But Velvet’s Prime Thruster Series provides nearly four inches of thrust at six different speeds, offering you up to 140 thrusts per minute.
Velvet’s custom models allow you to choose different colors, lengths, and head styles. The company also makes a handful of preconfigured models in various sizes, each offering similar thrusting capabilities. But the Prime series is by far its most impressive.
Depending on which head you choose, you’ll pay between $249.98 and $254.98 for a customized Prime Thruster. Your options are:
There are non-thrusting models and other pleasure toys, as well, including a couple of stainless steel vibrators and some kitschy items like a dildo that looks like Thor’s hammer (with the handle meant for insertion), a vibrating grenade that fits over the glans of a penis, and small alien figurine that serves as a clitoral vibrator. This sets Velvet apart from most of its competitors, many of whom seem to take sex too seriously. It’s an aesthetic that’s not for everybody, but if you aren’t averse to a little laughter in the bedroom, these niche toys might be a great fit.
Velvet does not offer free shipping, though it does make a point to describe its discreet shipping practices. You have two options for domestic shipping (US):
Best for couples
As the name implies, We-Vibe emphasizes couples’ play, focusing on toys you can control with the company’s app from anywhere with an internet connection. That means you and your partner can stay connected and engage in various activities, even if one of you is traveling. The app lets you put the device’s controls in your partner’s hands, so you won’t know what to expect regarding intensity or movement.
So it might not be a surprise that our top pick for couples comes from We-Vibe, but we’ve chosen a simpler build from its catalog to take that top spot: the Rave. We-Vibe has rabbit vibrators and anal toys (including an outstanding prostate massager). Still, we felt the Rave was its most accessible model that didn’t make too many sacrifices in pleasure potential.
And accessibility is important when discussing couples’ play, especially for those new to toy use. There’s rarely a perfect balance in enthusiasm and readiness between partners when introducing toys to the bedroom, so something like the Rave, which is so unassuming yet effective, is a perfect choice.
We-Vibe’s catalog doesn’t stop at vibrators and dildoes. Its other product categories include:
The Rave costs $119 and is covered by a two-year warranty. Other app-controlled vibrators — like the Lovense Nora — add clitoral stimulation to the picture and boast more reliable apps, but We-vibe’s overall catalog, including its various bundles for couples, gives it the edge when pleasuring more than one person. We also deeply appreciate that some of its couples bundles are built with the awareness that not all couples are one man and one woman. Many competitors offer couple’s bundles with a woman’s toy and a man’s toy, but We-Vibe mixes it up.
Best budget pick
Fun Factory is a German company that offers a nice variety of products on a bright, sex-positive website. It’s one of the few companies to greet beginners with open arms, providing them with useful blog posts and a dedicated product area with models that aren’t too big or threatening.
For more experienced or adventurous types, the company also offers pulsators, which add a thrusting motor to the base. Some of these combine thrusting with vibration to maximize pleasure.
Central to our appreciation of Fun Factory’s catalog is the Amor, a small dildo that’s less than five inches long and less than an inch thick. It’s an outstanding choice for beginners with its reasonable size and a build that’s exceptionally easy to clean. Best of all, it costs just $9.99 and comes in either black or pink.
Fun Factory also makes our top choice in double dildoes with the ShareVibe. A dramatic curve in this model’s shaft allows it to fit snugly in the vagina with gentle pressure against the G-spot, while the straighter end sticks out and can penetrate a partner. It costs $129.99 — a reasonable price to please two people — and it’s available in two colors.
Fun Factory’s other product categories include:
Fun Factory’s harnesses are compatible with many of its dildoes and can add a lot of variety to your couples’ play. They’re moisture-wicking, made from vegan-friendly materials, and have built-in pockets for added vibration devices. There’s a jock strap-style harness for $119.99 and a panty-style harness for $104.99.
All orders from Fun Factory come with free, discreet shipping, but the company’s warranty specifics are a bit unclear. Its policies state that its two-year warranty only applies to motorized models, but models like the Amor (which doesn’t have a motor) still advertise the two-year warranty on its pages. So, we reached out to the company’s US headquarters in Burbank, CA, and got some answers.
According to a company representative, the two-year warranty typically applies to motorized products only, but it’s the same system through which you’d file a claim if a non-motorized toy shipped to you with a defect of any kind. In short, they told us that the warranty applies on a case-by-case basis.
Pipedream is the parent company behind a slew of toy brands, including King Cock, whose Elite line of products includes an impressive array of realistic dildo options. There are many available skin tones, each with a lifelike look and feel. The company employs a hard shaft inside a soft silicone exterior to simulate the feeling of an erect penis. Vibrating and non-vibrating models are available, but given the simple USB recharging and effective vibration, we found the vibrating models preferable.
King Cock’s other products include a body dock strap-on system that works wonderfully with the Elite Cock’s base design, providing a secure connection and good control over angle and thrust.
As six inches is close to the most common size for dildo purchases, we recommend the King Cock Elite 6. Still, the brand offers several sizes, and vibrating models seven inches and above come with handy remote controls. You can’t buy from Pipedream directly, but we found the best prices through I Adore Love and have a few examples listed here for your convenience:
I Adore Love provides discreet packaging and offers free shipping on orders over $49, for which all but the non-vibrating 6-inch model qualify.
Best G-spot stimulator
While the people at Dame don’t seem to regard the company as catering exclusively to women, both the company’s name and current product lineup suggest otherwise. That said, men could repurpose a few products to provide intense pleasure; the products just don’t seem designed for men.
Anyone with a vagina is bound to find something useful here, however. In our estimation, the Arc offers a better way to target the G-spot than most dildoes or vibrators on the market. It’s ergonomic, fitting comfortably in the hand and providing excellent control. It also has a slightly gentler curve than some competitors’ G-spot vibrators. That makes it ideal for beginners searching for their G-spot, as they don’t have to contend with a curve so aggressive as to become unwieldy. Advanced users are equally likely to enjoy it, though, thanks to the intensity its highest settings offer.
The Arc costs $115, which isn’t enough to qualify for free shipping according to the site’s terms, but we found that the true bar for free shipping is $100, not $150, as listed in its FAQ — at least in our checkout experience. The only other Dame devices designed for insertion are the Zee bullet vibrator — which, at just $30, is a great choice for those on a budget — and the $35 Dip, which is more powerful than the Zee but also quite a bit louder.
If you’re not sure which device would be best for you, the company has a quick, easy quiz you can take that will point you toward your best bet. Most of our testers got the same top recommendation — the Pom ($95) — which we found a little suspicious.
Perhaps the most impressive aspect of Dame’s customer experience is its three-year warranty, which bests the next longest warranty on our list by an entire year.
Dame offers something we rarely see with anything we review: an opportunity to provide input to Dame’s extensive research library via Dame Labs. When you sign up, the company regularly sends you surveys about your sexual preferences, habits, experiences, etc. And it chooses from among its Labs participants to try out new prototypes whenever they come out, allowing you to experiment with new toys for free and provide the company with valuable feedback before it takes something to market.
Best for men and easiest to clean
Njoy makes a handful of stainless steel toys designed for simple performance and durability. The Pure Wand is likely Njoy’s most iconic offering, with a curved shape that lends toward G- and P-spot stimulation. And because all of its products are made of stainless steel, there are no limitations on which lubricants you can use (oil- and silicone-based lube can damage silicone).
That smooth, all-steel surface provides two other key benefits, as well. It’s exceptionally easy to clean and resistant to degradation. It also slides smoothly into the orifice of your choosing. Those are just some reasons we regard this as a top option for men. Its tapered shaft means anyone new to anal play can gradually become accustomed to the sensation until any discomfort is completely subsumed by pleasure.
While the Pure Wand is our top pick, Njoy’s lineup offers plenty of diversity in just six models. Here’s how they price out:
|Cost||Length (in.)||Widest point (in.)|
|Pure Plug 2.0||$120||3.5||2|
While Njoy offers free shipping, the return address on the shipping label reads “Vibe Design LLC.” That’s not a dead giveaway as to the package contents, but we’d like to see Njoy employ more obscure language here.
There isn’t any real warranty coverage for Njoy products, but the company will accept returns in the event a product arrives damaged or defective for up to 30 days.
The Gala Confetti is part of a vast collection of toys curated and produced by Good Vibes under its Pleasure Works banner. Outside of the Gala models (which include a miniature dildo and a confetti anal plug) and the Pleasure Works collection at large, you’ll find a slew of models by other brands, including some on this list. For the most part, Good Vibes seems to match the prices you’ll find on these companies’ websites, and if those companies have sales of their own going on, it’d be wiser to buy from them directly. The best dildo deals from Good Vibes are on its own merchandise.
It’s an incredibly straightforward model that’s 8.75 inches long with a 6.5-inch insertable length and a girth of 1.67 inches. That might be too thick for some beginners, but those with a little experience who know they don’t like a dildo that’s too large will likely find it suits their needs. And on the length side, that disparity between total and insertable length comes from a pair of testicles and a strong suction cup base.
The shaft is designed similarly to most realistic dildoes, with veins along its sides that create additional sensations on vaginal and anal walls. Of course, this dildo’s playful, translucent, confetti-filled coloring takes it away from reality and lets a little fun inside.
Good Vibrations provides 90-day warranties and offers free shipping on orders over $69 (ahem), and at $69.99, the Gala Confetti is just pricey enough to get you there.
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