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Best Dildoes

Whether to please yourself or engage in more adventurous couples' play, the right dildo can make all the difference.

Last Updated: Aug 10, 2022
Best Dildoes

Sex toys tend to lack particularly dignified names, and the dildo is no different. But as a tool for pleasure, few implements are as simple or effective. And according to industry research, around 75% of Americans own a dildo or vibrator, with the largest concentration of owners in midwest and coastal states.

So, whether you’re on the outside looking in and wondering where to begin in your search for your first dildo, or you’re merely looking to add another piece to an ever-growing collection, we’ve put together this guide to give you all the confidence you need to make your decision.

In our guide, we discuss traditional, realistic dildoes, as well as models with unusual shapes or materials. And we’ve included vibrators among our picks to give you a greater diversity of options.

If you’re pressed for time, here’s a quick look at our top picks by category:

Summary of recommendations

Our Top Picks

Lelo Wave Series

The Lelo Wave Series models offer motion and vibration - perfect for G- and P-spot stimulation.

Lelo’s dildos are quiet, waterproof, and available in multiple colors. The rechargeable battery life is strong, and shipping is free on all orders.

What is a dildo?

Technically, any phallic object designed for sexual pleasure could be considered a dildo. The most typical images that come to mind are “realistic” dildoes that look like an idealized version of the male anatomy. But everything from modern computerized molding and 3D printing to increased skill in glass-blowing has allowed the humble dildo to evolve into various shapes and sizes.

Whether the definition extends to anything relatively phallic used for sexual pleasure — regardless of its intended purpose — is a matter of perspective. But we’ve elected to limit our selection to pieces built with pleasure as their intent, even if that means neglecting things like hair brushes and zucchini.

Top considerations when choosing a dildo

Pleasure

Pleasure is deeply personal, both because of our psychological response to various stimuli and also because each of us has unique anatomy that will derive pleasure from different shapes, sizes, angles, and movements. If you’ve never used a dildo before, you might still gain some insights from past pleasurable intercourse or self-stimulation. These experiences might tell you to look for something specific like extra length or girth.

Of course, if you don’t have particularly informative experiences in this regard, there are still a few things to look for that might make your experience more enjoyable. Vibration and movement are pleasurable options, but not universally so. One thing women and men have in a reasonably similar orientation to their respective vaginal and anal openings are the G-spot and the prostate (sometimes called the P-spot). Dildoes with an upward curvature have an easier time reaching these pleasure centers and may be a smart thing to look for if you’re otherwise unsure what might feel good to you.

Size

Deeply connected to pleasure is size, but size is also a practical matter for users at every experience level. It’s not a great idea for newcomers to get an especially large dildo in the hopes that they’ll grow into it. The smarter move is to start with a smaller dildo and purchase progressively longer or thicker models as you come to enjoy them.

Market research indicates that women’s most common size dildo is six inches. Interestingly, if you account for the fact that a user needs to have some kind of grip on their dildo, that puts the average inserted length at an almost perfect match for the average male penis size.

Pay close attention to the term “insertable length” when you see it. Not all companies advertise the total and insertable length, but it’s an important distinction, especially when a dildo features a base or a dedicated grip. That would add to its total length, but not the length of the part that actually goes inside you.

In rare cases, especially when there is no dedicated handle, the total and insertable lengths are the same. Here’s a look at some of our favorite models’ lengths for comparison:

  Insertable length (in.) Total length (in.)
LELO Ina Wave 4.3 7.9
Velvet Prime 7 12
Fun Factory Amor 4.72 5.75
King Cock Elite 6 6 7
Dame Arc 7.5 7.5
Rippler Mini Shimmer 5.5 6
We-Vibe Rave 7.5 7.5
Njoy Pure Wand 8 8
Lovense Nora 4.72 9.53

Cost

There are outstanding dildoes you can get for less than $50 and incredible models you can find for several hundred. The relationship between cost and quality isn’t direct, but you will often find added features at the higher price points. Those might include smartphone or remote control for vibration and motion functions. Your budget will ultimately determine your cost, but we recommend new users start with something simple before graduating to more complex models. The last thing you want is to intimidate yourself or your partner away from what could ultimately be a pleasurable experience.

Maintenance

It’s imperative that you keep all of your sex toys clean. There are special sprays, solutions, and wipes for just that purpose, and they make maintenance easier for everyone. Still, certain aspects of a given dildo can make it more or less challenging to maintain. Its shape may create small crevices or areas where bacteria could potentially collect or that might be harder to reach with a wipe or a cloth. Any dildo that requires you to purchase additional tools just to clean it will likely lose points in our book.

Battery power is also a big part of maintenance if you get a model with motion or vibration. A model that uses replaceable batteries might die on you unexpectedly, but you can quickly swap those out and get back to fun. A rechargeable model will need time to regain some juice before you can use it again, unless it’s designed to run while charging. Anticipating your use habits is important here, but we tend to recommend replaceable battery models to those who are unsure.

Privacy and discretion

Regardless of how open you are with your lifestyle, there’s little doubt that you appreciate a company that respects your privacy more than one that doesn’t. For example, getting a dildo shipped to your house with its picture on the box might not be ideal. Nor would having customized dildo banner ads suddenly overrun your computer. So, we look at each company’s privacy and shipping policies to see which offers the best privacy and discretion, with unmarked shipping boxes and customizable marketing and tracking options whenever possible.

The best dildoes on the market

For a quick comparison of cost, materials, and features, we’ve put together this handy chart:

  Cost Material Vibration Movement Smartphone or Remote Control
LELO Ina Wave $199 Silicone
Yes
Yes
Yes
Velvet Prime $250 Silicone
Yes
Yes
 
We-Vibe Rave $109 Silicone
Yes
Yes
Yes
Fun Factory Amor $40 Silicone      
King Cock Elite 6 $92 Silicone
Yes
   
Dame Arc $115 Silicone
Yes
   
Njoy Pure Wand $120 Stainless steel      
Lovense Nora $99 Silicone
Yes
Yes
Yes
Ripple Mini Shimmer $49 Silicone      

LELO Wave series

Best overall, best vibrator, and best for women

Pros

  • Available with motion, vibration, or both
  • Waterproof silicone construction
  • Quiet running on some models
  • Multiple colors available
  • Good rechargeable battery life
  • Free shipping on all orders

Cons

  • Website is hard to navigate
  • Pricier than many others

LELO boasts one of the few lineups with vibration and movement in their toys. Their Wave series simulates the motion of a finger gently curling inside you. This is particularly nice for G- and P-spot stimulation.

A few Wave models are clearly geared toward women, especially our favorite: the Ida Wave. In addition to a vibrating, moving dildo, this model stimulates the clitoris, as well. The Loki Wave is the company’s male-oriented toy in their Wave lineup, and it features both an insertable Wave end and a vibrating massager for the perineum.

Here’s a look at how LELO’s Wave series’ models compare:

  Cost Control type Color options Noteworthy features
Ina Wave $199 Manual 3 12 settings, extra-long charge
Ida Wave $189 Smartphone 2 10 settings, hands-free use
Soraya Wave $194 Manual 3 Flexible, ergonomic build
Loki Wave $175 Remote 2 10 settings, perineum stimulator

LELO products come with 1-year warranties and 10-year guarantees. The warranty covers any defects or issues that arise in the first year with a free replacement. The guarantee covers the same for a decade but gives you 50% off a new device instead of a replacement.

Velvet Prime Thruster

Best customizable option

Pros

  • Five head options
  • Lots of color choices
  • Up to 8 hours of battery life
  • 3.5in of thrusting motion
  • Flexible shaft
  • Works while charging
  • 90-day warranty

Cons

  • Among the most expensive options
  • Lackluster waterproofing
  • On the noisy side
  • No free shipping

While humming vibration and subtle motions are enough for some people, others prefer a more aggressive thrusting action, which is rare among dildoes. But Velvet’s Prime Thruster Series provides nearly four inches of thrust at six different speeds, offering you up to 140 thrusts per minute.

Velvet’s custom models allow you to choose different colors, lengths, and head styles. The company also makes a handful of preconfigured models in various sizes, each offering similar thrusting capabilities. But the Prime series is by far their most impressive.

Depending on which head you choose, you’ll pay between $249.95 and $254.95 for a customized Prime Thruster. Your options are:

  • Jackie: The smaller of two anatomical options, measuring 6.5x1.5in of insertable proportions
  • Frankie: A ribbed model measuring 6.75x1.5in
  • Walter: A tapered bead-strip-shaped model measuring 7x.65-1.35in
  • Sammie: The larger of two anatomical models, measuring 7.25x1.85in
  • Nancy: A long, bulbous model with a dramatically curved tip for massaging the G- or P-spot, measuring 7.25x1.25in

Velvet does not offer free shipping, though they do make a point to describe their discreet shipping practices. You have two options for domestic shipping (US):

  • USPS Priority: $11.99 / 3-5 Days
  • FedEx 2-Day: $24.99 / 2-3 Days

We-Vibe Rave

Best for couples

Pros

  • Smartphone and remote controls on various models
  • Works over long distances
  • Waterproof construction
  • Two-year warranty
  • Comes with a free bottle of lubricant
  • Free, discreet shipping

Cons

  • Charging cable not included
  • Only two hours of run time
  • Smartphone connection isn’t always reliable

As the name implies, We-Vibe emphasizes couples’ play, focusing on toys you can control with the company’s app from anywhere with an internet connection. That means you and your partner can stay connected and engage in various activities, even if one of you is traveling. The app lets you put the device’s controls in your partner’s hands, so you won’t know what to expect regarding intensity or movement.

So it might not be a surprise that our top pick for couples comes from We-Vibe, but we’ve chosen a simpler build from their catalog to take that top spot: the Rave. We-Vibe has rabbit vibrators and anal toys (including an outstanding prostate massager). Still, we felt the Rave was their most accessible model that didn’t make any sacrifices in pleasure potential.

And accessibility is important when discussing couples’ play, especially for those new to toy use. There’s rarely a perfect balance in enthusiasm and readiness between partners when introducing toys to the bedroom, so something like the Rave, which is so unassuming yet effective, is a perfect choice.

We-Vibe’s catalog doesn’t stop at vibrators and dildoes. Their other product categories include:

  • Anal plugs
  • Cock rings
  • Suction toys
  • Wand massagers
  • Kegel exercisers
  • Lubricant
  • Cleaners
  • Bundles

Fun Factory

Best budget pick and best double dildo

Pros

  • Great variety at reasonable prices
  • Panty-style harnesses available
  • Dedicated search section for beginners
  • Educational blog
  • Reliable waterproofing
  • Designed and manufactured in Germany
  • Free first-class shipping

Cons

  • Warranty only applies to motorized products
  • No way to opt-out of tracking cookies

Fun Factory is a German company that offers a nice variety of products on a bright, sex-positive website. They’re one of the few companies to greet beginners with open arms, providing them with useful blog posts and a dedicated product area with models that aren’t too big or threatening.

For more experienced or adventurous types, the company also offers pulsators, which add a thrusting motor to the base. Some of these combine thrusting with vibration to maximize pleasure. And Fun Factory makes our top choice in double dildoes with the ShareVibe.

A dramatic curve in this model’s shaft allows it to fit snugly in the vagina with gentle pressure against the G-spot, while the straighter end sticks out and can penetrate a partner. It costs $129.99, a reasonable price to please two people, and it’s available in two colors.

Fun Factory’s other product categories include:

  • Anal toys
  • Kegel balls
  • Harnesses
  • Lubricant
  • Cleaners
  • Scented candles
  • Menstrual cups

Fun Factory’s harnesses are compatible with many of their dildoes and can add a lot of variety to your couples’ play. They’re moisture-wicking, made from vegan-friendly materials, and have built-in pockets for added vibration devices.

There’s a jock strap-style harness for $119.99 and a panty-style harness for $84.99.

Pipedream King Cock Elite

Most realistic

Pros

  • Realistic look and feel
  • Smooth, flexible exterior with hard interior shaft
  • Strong suction cup base
  • Lifelike veins aren’t off-putting
  • Compatible with company’s strap-on system

Cons

  • Can’t be purchased directly from manufacturer
  • Straight design makes it harder to reach G- and P-spots
  • Likely too thick for beginners

Pipedream is the parent company behind a slew of toy brands, including King Cock, whose Elite line of products includes an impressive array of realistic dildo options. There are many available skin tones, each with a lifelike look and feel. The company employs a hard shaft inside a soft silicone exterior to simulate the feeling of a penis engorged with blood. Vibrating and non-vibrating models are available, but given the simple USB recharging and effective vibration, we found the vibrating models preferable.

King Cock’s other products include a body dock strap-on system that works wonderfully with the Elite Cock’s base design, providing a secure connection and good control over angle and thrust.

As six inches is the most common size for dildo purchases, we recommend the King Cock Elite 6. Still, the brand offers several sizes, and vibrating models seven inches and above come with handy remote controls. You can’t buy from Pipedream directly, but we found the best prices through I Adore Love and have a few examples listed here for your convenience:

  Cost Girth (in.) Remote
6-inch non-vibrating $48 1.5 N/A
6-inch vibrating $92 1.5  
7-inch vibrating $120 1.4
Yes
8-inch vibrating $128 2.1
Yes
9-inch vibrating $144 2
Yes
10-inch non-vibrating $96 2 N/A
11-inch non-vibrating $112 2.1 N/A

I Adore Love provides discreet packaging and offers free shipping on orders over $49, for which all but the non-vibrating 6-inch model qualify.

Dame Arc

Best G-spot stimulator

Pros

  • Arc has a smart shape to stimulate the G-spot
  • Good savings on curated bundles
  • Various lubes and cleaning products
  • Aphrodisiac gummies available
  • 60-day return window

Cons

  • Bar for free shipping is high at $100
  • Returns are only granted as gift cards
  • Few products would be useful for men

While the people at Dame don’t seem to regard the company as catering exclusively to women, both the company’s name and current product lineup suggest otherwise. That said, men could repurpose a few products to provide intense pleasure; the products just don’t seem designed for men.

Anyone with a vagina is bound to find something useful here, however. In our estimation, the Arc offers a better way to target the G-spot than most dildos or vibrators on the market. It’s ergonomic, fitting comfortably in the hand and providing excellent control. It also has a slightly gentler curve than some competitors’ G-spot vibrators. That makes it ideal for beginners searching for their G-spot, as they don’t have to contend with a curve so aggressive as to become unwieldy. Advanced users are equally likely to enjoy it, though, thanks to the intensity its highest settings offer.

The Arc costs $115, which isn’t enough to qualify for free shipping according to the site’s terms, but we found that the true bar for free shipping is $100, not $150, as listed in their FAQ. The only other Dame device designed for insertion is their Zee bullet vibrator, which, at just $30, is a great choice for those on a budget.

If you’re not sure which device would be best for you, the company has a quick, easy quiz you can take that will point you toward your best bet. Most of our testers got the same top recommendation — the Pom ($95) — which we found a little suspicious.

Dame Labs

Dame offers something we rarely see with anything we review: an opportunity to provide input to Dame’s extensive research library via Dame Labs. When you sign up, the company regularly sends you surveys about your sexual preferences, habits, experiences, etc. And they choose from among their Labs participants to try out new prototypes whenever they come out, allowing you to experiment with new toys for free and provide the company with valuable feedback before they take something to market.

Njoy Pure Wand

Best for men and easiest to clean

Pros

  • Durable stainless steel construction
  • Small and large heads at either end
  • Smooth surface is easy to clean
  • No lube limitations
  • Free shipping on all orders

Cons

  • Return address on label implies contents
  • Can be hard to grip
  • Cold to the touch

Njoy makes a handful of stainless steel toys designed for simple performance and durability. The Pure Wand is likely their most iconic offering, with a curved shape that lends toward G- and P-spot stimulation. And because all of their products are made of stainless steel, there are no limitations on which lubricants you can use (oil-based lube can damage silicone).

That smooth, all-steel surface provides two other key benefits, as well. It’s exceptionally easy to clean and resistant to degradation. It also slides smoothly into the orifice of your choosing. Those are just some reasons we regard this as a top option for men. Its tapered shaft means anyone new to anal play can gradually become accustomed to the sensation until any discomfort is completely subsumed by pleasure.

While the Pure Wand is our top pick, Njoy’s lineup offers plenty of diversity in just six models. Here’s how they price out:

  Cost Length (in.) Widest point (in.)
Pure Wand $120 8 1.5
Fun Wand $95 8 1
Eleven $400 11 2
Pure Plugs $65-$85 N/A 1-1.5
Pfun Plug $95 3.5 1.25
Pure Plug 2.0 $120 3.5 2

While Njoy offers free shipping, the return address on the shipping label reads “Vibe Design LLC.” While not a dead giveaway as to the package contents, we’d like to see Njoy employ more obscure language here.

Lovense

Pros

  • Wireless control works at long distances
  • App is fun to use
  • Rotating head massages G- or P-spot
  • 4-hour run time
  • IPX6 water resistance
  • One-year warranty

Cons

  • Insertable length may be short for some
  • Vibration is limited to external arm
  • No free shipping

Lovense has an impressive lineup of toys that includes various vibrators, and even custom-sized condoms. The Nora is our top pick in their catalog thanks to its array of compelling features and reasonable price tag. It offers movement, vibration, wireless connectivity, reliable waterproofing, and more for just $99.

One complaint about the Nora’s build is that the external arm designed to stimulate the clitoris is the only one that vibrates. The other arm provides motion without vibration. If they could also offer vibration there, that would be a game changer.

Still, the Nora stands to provide more than adequate pleasure to the vast majority of its users. It’s also a great choice for couples, thanks to its enjoyable and intuitive smartphone app. The app lets you control the toy’s parameters from a distance — either across the room via Bluetooth or anywhere on the globe with an internet connection.

While it’s a shame that Lovense doesn’t offer free shipping no matter how much you spend, they only charge a flat $5 fee and ship discreetly.

Rippler Mini Shimmer by Good Vibes

Pros

  • Three shimmering colors available
  • Removable bullet vibrator included
  • Compatible with harnesses
  • Made in the USA
  • Ridges increase sensation

Cons

  • Base has no suction
  • Vibrator has just one setting

The Rippler Mini Shimmer is part of a vast collection of toys curated and produced by Good Vibes under their Pleasure Works banner. It’s an incredibly straightforward model that’s six inches long with a 5.5-inch insertable length and a girth of 1.75in. That might be too thick for some beginners, but those with a little experience who know they don’t like a dildo that’s too large will likely find it suits their needs.

The shaft is gently tapered and curved, with ridges that massage the inside of the vagina or anus as it moves. There’s also a small hole in the base into which you can slide an included bullet vibrator. The functionality here is limited compared to vibrators with multiple intensity settings, but it’s still a nice addition.

The Rippler Mini is available in three colors — pink, purple, and blue — but because the silicone is hand-mixed, there are bound to be slight color variations compared to what you see in pictures.

Good Vibrations offers free shipping on orders over $69, and at $69.99, the Rippler Mini is just pricey enough to get you there.

Dildo FAQ

What size dildo should I get?

Dildo sizing is largely a personal question, but there are a few things you might want to consider when picking one out. You should first realize that size consists of length and girth. If either of those numbers is off, you could be extremely disappointed or uncomfortable. You also need to consider your experience level with other toys or people — what sizes have you experienced in the past? Finally, keep in mind that the most commonly sold size has an insertable length of six inches, so it seems that a relatively average length is enough for most people.

What’s the best dildo material?

While dildo materials are also a personal preference, each has advantages and disadvantages. The three most common are silicone, stainless steel, and plastic. Silicone has a lifelike feel with comfortable flexibility and the potential to hold various shapes and sizes. But it’s less durable than stainless steel and degrades if you use it with oil-based lubricants. Stainless steel is incredibly durable, compatible with any lube, and easy to clean, but it’s cold to the touch and lacks flexibility. We generally don’t recommend basic plastic dildoes.

Do I need to use lube with a dildo?

We always recommend using lubricant with a dildo. Depending on the size and material, you may not need it, but it always makes things run more smoothly. If you’re using a silicone dildo, make sure to pair it with a water-based lubricant.

Are dildoes hard to clean?

Dildoes are remarkably easy to clean, even after anal play. Some have more nooks and crannies than others, but there are sprays, wipes, and other tools of the trade that make cleanup easier than it’s ever been. Make sure to clean your toys after every session and before switching from one orifice to another.

Why you should trust us

At Innerbody Research, we extensively test each health product we review. All told, our team has collectively spent hundreds of hours testing and researching various sex toys to provide an accurate, unbiased analysis of how they compare, free of marketing jargon and gimmicks.

Over the past two decades, Innerbody Research has helped tens of millions of readers make more informed decisions to live healthier lifestyles. We evaluate the service based on adherence to quality, the latest medical evidence and health standards, and a simple question: would we buy the product or service ourselves if it weren’t part of our job, and would we recommend it to family and friends?

Additionally, like all health-related content on this website, this guide was thoroughly vetted by one or more members of our Medical Review Board for accuracy.

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